I’ve studied over 200 kids—the ones with high emotional intelligence do 7 things Emotional intelligence, the ability to understand and navigate emotions, is crucial for a child’s resilience and mental strength. Seven key indicators suggest a child is developing this vital skill, reflecting their emotional safety and connection to themselves. These signs range from articulating feelings and seeking support to managing disappointment and showing empathy.

• Children who can name their feelings (e.g., ‘I’m frustrated’) have developed emotional vocabulary, allowing them to process emotions rather than act them out.
• When children approach parents with difficult emotions, it signifies trust and a feeling of safety, indicating they haven’t been shamed or abandoned for their feelings.
• Emotionally intelligent children can experience disappointment, like losing a game, and eventually recover, rather than falling apart.
• Noticing and commenting on others’ emotions (e.g., ‘Mom, are you sad?’) demonstrates developing empathy, a high form of emotional intelligence.
• Genuine apologies stem from recognizing hurt caused and a desire to make amends, reflecting self-awareness and empathy learned from receiving repair.
• Children who can ask for their needs directly (e.g., ‘I need a hug’) show strong emotional intelligence, indicating an environment where their needs have been consistently met.
• A child doesn’t feel the need to constantly manage the emotional atmosphere or suppress themselves to maintain connection, indicating emotional intelligence.